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My experiences with counseling   Leave a comment

I started getting counseling after I finished high school.  When I saw a counselor, I was able to share things I could not share with friends.  I was taught to show a strong front.  I would not express feelings of uncertainty or discouragement.  I would show happiness during good times and show anger when a situation bothered me.  For example, I would be happy with good grades or for getting an award.  I would be angry when I was unable to get help from a teacher for a difficult class or when I was unable to find information I needed for writing a paper.  With counseling I was able to talk about my experiences.  However, I had a hard time sharing my feelings.  I would say what was happening and not how I felt about them.  I would feel discouraged about counseling because it seemed like there was no way for me to stop going to counseling.

Counseling is useful when you have deep feelings and need a safe place to express them.  I don’t recommend you go to counseling instead of talking with friends, though.  Friends can tell you when you say the same things over and over again or when you become obsessed over a specific situation in your life.  Here are some examples of when counseling may be useful.  You have a lot of anxiety about a situation and you have talked it over with many people.  However, the anxiety interferes with your sleep.  Another situation where you may want counseling is when you have been crying easily over things that normally don’t bother you.  That would be an indication of some serious problem in some area of your life, and you may not realize that situation is bothering you so much.  Counseling can help you find out what that situation is and help you sort out your thoughts so you can come up with a solution to that problem.

Posted January 31, 2011 by Nancy Mathis in Uncategorized

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My first post   1 comment

Hello, my name is Nancy Mathis.  I am using a pseudonym so I can share my experiences without hurting the feelings of my friends, co-workers, and my family.  The first time I can remember being depressed was when I moved far away from many of my relatives on Mom’s side of the family.  I moved from Cincinnati, Ohio to San Diego, California with my parents.  I turned 13 that summer.  At first, I thought moving far away from my old school was exciting, and I thought I would make new friends easily.  However, I became depressed at summer camp because I had trouble making friends and I became homesick.  I cried almost every day I was at the summer camp.  The only day I didn’t cry was on my birthday.  I would go to the bathroom to cry at night because I didn’t want anyone else to see me cry.  I made a few friends there, so it helped me through my time there.  However, for the most part, I was miserable.  I was so happy to come home from summer camp.  I thought things would be better when I went to school, because I enjoyed going to school.  It did not turn out that way.  I am going to share more of my story later.  I will add information about signs of depression, getting help in the form of counseling, psychiatrists, self-help books, and spiritual growth, and about coping with depression on a day-to-day basis.

Posted January 22, 2011 by Nancy Mathis in Uncategorized