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Things that can trigger depression   Leave a comment

I am on medication, and I keep track of my moods on a regular basis during the day.  Here are some things that can cause me to feel depressed: 1.  Disappointment, 2.  Being tired, 3. Being in pain, lots of discomfort, or being sick; 4. Frustration.

I am a Christian, so when I face disappointment or become frustrated, I ask myself how to deal with it based on the Serenity Prayer.  The Serenity Prayer goes like this:  God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.  I cannot change other people, and some situations are beyond my control.  I can change my response to what is happening around me, and possibly take some action.  Taking action may feel good.  However, I go ahead and take action cautiously.  Sometimes action makes things worse.  I only take action if I believe it will help improve the situation.  Then after taking action, I give it over to God.  When I think about it, I ask myself, “Do I want to take it back (in order words, worry about the situation again)?”  The answer is usually “No.”  When I think about it, I pray about the situation and turn it back over to God.

If fatigue is a problem, I ask myself whether I should keep busy, rest, or get some sleep.  I focus on doing the right thing at the moment.  I make sure I get some sleep.  I don’t function well when I get very little sleep or if I don’t sleep well.

If I am in pain, having a lot of discomfort, or sick, I look for ways to ease the pain and discomfort.  When I am sick, I get extra rest and pay more attention to how I am feeling minute by minute.  I also focus on doing the right thing at the time.  In situations like this, I practice gratitude and focus on positive things.  I thank God for places in my body that feel good or feel relatively good (for instance, I woke up one morning being barely able to walk due to ankle pain.  Then I realized I had sciatica on my left side.  Most of that leg was aching that morning.  I did some stretches and I thanked God because my right leg felt pretty good that morning.  Later in the day, I was able to walk normally again.)  I think about good things and read inspirational books and the Bible even when my body or mind resists those things.  I do feel better when I think positive.


Posted February 26, 2011 by Nancy Mathis in Uncategorized

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More about counseling   Leave a comment

I went through counseling after my divorce.   I based my self-esteem on external events such as getting good grades in school, staying married, and not being dependent on my parents.  I was grieving, and I was feeling worthless.  I went to a counselor who was very confrontational, and I did not like her at all.  My sadness was overwhelming when I saw her.  I told her I was so sad I was afraid to cry.  I was afraid my crying would never stop.  She told me she did not believe me.  It is possible for depression to get that bad, though.  I was still in school, and I sometimes would miss a class due to grieving.  I was not done with my bachelor’s degree yet.

After I got my degree, I decided to go back to the city where my ex-husband, Thomas (a fictional name) lived in Texas.  I did not want to stay with my parents.  I had many bad experiences in the city where my parents lived in California, and I wanted to visit old friends in Texas.  I had many friends there.  I thought Thomas and I were still good friends.  Based on our phone calls, he sympathized with me and listened to me.  I did not know he had a girlfriend who would sometimes stay at his apartment overnight.  I thought with a bachelor’s degree, I could find a good job and be able to stay in Texas.  I did not find good jobs there, so I went back to school and continued my education.

Posted February 6, 2011 by Nancy Mathis in Uncategorized

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